Today is R U OK? Day. It is the day to ask your friends or family if they are ok and if there is anything they are struggling with. Every mumma reading this right now I am sure has had one day or one hundred days where they have really hit breaking point. Being a mum is hard and I stand by the fact that it is the hardest job in the world. Being a mumma is so wonderful but with it, comes its fair share of stress, exhaustion, sleep deprivation, worry, anxiety, being overwhelmed, insecurity and much more.
As I have said before, I don't speak as a Doctor or a Psychologist, but a mum who gets it and wants you to know how you feel and what you experience is something you are not alone in. You are not alone when you have moments that you wished you could have your old life back, and it's ok because that is a moment that will pass and it generally does when the arms of the little one you want to give up on squeezes around your neck, replacing those regretful feelings with an overflowing of love. You are not alone when you scream into your pillow because you are at the point of exploding at your child and it's ok. It's ok because when you give yourself five minutes to cool off and make yourself a coffee, the moment will pass and you will look at them doing something funny and those angry words you want to scream at them will be replaced with a joyful laugh. You are not alone when you have spent nights of no sleep and watch your child screaming wishing they would just stop. You are not alone when you are at breaking point and have to walk away for a minute to calm yourself down and it's ok. It's ok because this season won't last forever even though it looks like it will never end. You will once again have your sleep back and then will one day watch your child sleeping, wishing they were in your arms tiny again. You are not alone when you feel anxious leaving your child for the first time putting your trust in someone else to love and care for your bubba like you do and it's ok. It's ok because your child can see how much they are loved and it's ok because you are teaching them the valuable lesson of independence. It's ok because it is giving you time out and rest. You are not alone when some days you can't be bothered because you are just too tired and crave some space from your kids and it's ok. It's ok to take a day for yourself or go back to work or spend an afternoon shopping kid free or pursue a dream that is your own!
These feelings are all ok... BUT! If you feel like this and chances are many of you have and/ or will, then talk to someone about it. Don't ever be ashamed or feel like you have failed because I promise you, that every mum is like you. Talk to a friend or a family member and ask for help. Talk to your GP or ring your local child community centre and ask for advice. You are normal, your feelings are normal and you are doing an amazing job. If your child is loved, fed, cared for and happy, then you are doing great!
If you feel like any of your friends are sharing stories like this or don't seem themselves then like I am asking you today, ask them R U OK? Show them that you care and tell them you are here for them. Us mummas need to stick together and make a community with each other so surround yourselves with mummas who can do this journey alongside you and see that you are not alone.
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