Ahhhh Mother's Day. The one day of the year that you actually feel you have the right to put your feet up and do absolutely nothing for the whole day. I'm sure you still do or organise a lot of it but for me I don't really care because on this day it's all about me. So how do you get your young children to understand this very important day? You begin with talking about it weeks or days ahead. My kids are so prepped that they are hanging to spoil me on Sunday. Genius!
Thanks to my responsible six year old, he asked for a list of things I would like and would like to do on Mother's Day. I told him I would come up with a list and this list would also be a great idea to share on The Realistic Mum blog. Now he thinks he has done something special for all the mums who read this so we will just give him that one. I have also added a few things that we will get anyway and that I actually really look forward to because they crack me up every year! Don't worry you will recognise these one's on the list.
So All I want for Mother's Day is..... me.
1. Sleep in - Well let's just start from the morning and work our way to the end because I am literally not going to waste a single minute of this glorious day . I not only want a sleep in but I seriously need 8 solid hours of interrupted (kids and husband) quilt hogging, in complete silence, peaceful, sweet, sweet sleep. Actually if I only got this I think I would still be winning.
2. Breakfast in Bed - Cold toast and butter not spread to the sides. Kids have most likely licked the knife three times whilst spreading every condiment from the cupboard onto what once looked like a piece of toast. However, I didn't make it and I have a coffee to wash it down with so with a smile and three children staring at me, in it goes.
3. House Chores - I would really love to hand over all cleaning duties and watch Cam scrubbing away in the bathroom and mopping the floors but this actually takes hours of the day and I'm personally not interested in waiting around while this is happening just to enjoy the look of it. I am however in negotiations for adding Saturday to make a weekend of it but not holding my breath at this stage.
4. Time Out - Now I feel this may go hand in hand with the one above but again this could be done on the Saturday. As much as I crave and/or need some kid free space, I really do want to spend it with my munch kins on Mother's Day. Possible Proposal, I go to the movies and get a bit of pampering done whilst house chores are taken care of. For me, this may be a few years in the making but I am going to try for tomorrow anyway. Its only my floors that need a doing over so will start small.
5. The School Stall - And there it is or at least one of them so far. The present wrapped in a brown paper bag, completely mangled from being shoved to the bottom of the back pack for the week in hopes I won't find it.... My son knows me well. I didn't mean to peek but I spotted a notebook and couldn't help but smile. He knows I love collecting them to jot in all my notes for stories for The Realistic Mum. Favourite Child! (I'm joking .... but sometimes he really is ;) ).
6. Taken Out for Lunch - Apart from sleep this is my favourite one of all. I do like the idea of the kids and Cam making me lunch at home but let's be honest, I end up cleaning up and for me that's the worst bit. We have started a little tradition of a picnic in the park because it's a little less stressful than three screaming kids in a packed cafe. I can relax in the sunshine and enjoy food of a disposable nature. Generally cheese and wine from my major food group.
7. Cooking Dinner - This year I have requested the local Italian restaurant for dinner. It has a play area, great food and not very expensive. If Franklin falls asleep then I would literally have mastered the perfect day but I will keep my expectations low. I'm happy to be cooked dinner but the clean up after like I said previously, taints the food a little not to mention the three unwashed hands that have been playing in the ingredients. I'm one of those mums who makes the cookies with the kids but marks theirs at the end of the tray for them to eat. Mean I know but I think years of cooking with young school kids has done that to me.
8. I Made it for You - Oh my heart explodes every time. The cute little poem and painted hand print just gets me every year. Another tradition Cam and I made was that we make our own cards with a photo of the kids on the front and a message from each of them. They seriously say the most random unrelated things but it just makes it all the more special. Mummy I love your face because it's pink and I love butterflies..... Thanks Eva, very uplifting.
9. Being Pampered - Massages that are more like pinching and losing half a head of hair while it's being brushed are lovely thoughts but not quite the pampering I have in mind. You can never have too many massage vouchers!
10. Thank you - Sometimes it's really hard to bite my tongue on the more stressful days when all I want to blurt out is Do you know how hard it is to be a mum! I try not to say this because I chose this and I love it, sucky days and all. However, a thank you, I love you, I appreciate everything you do is my little booster switch to keep me going another year. To know that I am doing a good job or the best I can and be recognised for that wipes clean every bad day for me.
Being a mum is the hardest job in the world and you could argue that with so many that don't agree until you are blue in the face. Here and right now especially for all the mums about to have their first Mother's Day and feeling like you are really struggling; YOU ARE AMAZING! You are all the ingredients that make up a mother; brave, strong, caring, loving, flexible, selfless, generous, giving and beautiful.
Happy Mother's Day wonderful mummas. Enjoy your special day be whatever that looks like for you and your family and know that you are an incredible person xx
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