Most of us have left that very cute teddy or wrap in our bubbas cot from the moment they came home thinking this will become their favourite. I thought I would pick the cutest one for my kids and pop it next to them when they slept. As babies none of my kids attached themselves to any toy and I weirdly felt sad about it until one day when I watched a friend and her hubby in a complete frazzle as their child had a complete meltdown because they didn't bring their toy. Yep I was totally grateful. It's hard enough remembering to pack the three kids in the car let alone their toys! As babies mine all loved their dummies so that was enough for me. I am no where near responsible enough to remember something bigger than what fits in my handbag and I'm generally the person that leaves half of our stuff at friend's houses when we go.
As kids though mine all have favourite toys that they love and most times I make the rule that they stay at home unless we go on holiday. I figure it won't get lost or left behind and I won't be starting any attachment that I will have to end months later. This week I was looking at what they have chosen to love most and even my friends babies, toddlers and kids and I have found that these attachment toys are special in their own way to them. It was never about choosing something that was adorable and forcing it on your child to love. Trust me George Pig and a monster truck were the last toys I would pick for Franklin to snuggle up with but here we are cuddling them every sleep time. Jack became a massive Toy Story fan and we started a lovely collection of characters. Buzz and Woody were always in bed and then sat on his bed during the day. If you have seen the movie a gazillion times like us you will not judge me with the following story... I hope. I'm really not a weirdo!
So during one of my many sort outs I started putting some of Jack's toys downstairs in the playroom. He was moving onto Super Heroes so we had a good collection of them as well as the Toy Story gang on his bed so I was over making it up every morning. He still loved sleeping with Woody, and Buzz had been sent to the floor after I was constantly woken up in the night by 'to infinity and beyond' by a strange man. Buzz was sent downstairs and Woody left to make friends with Batman and Spiderman. Again if you have seen the movies you will get me with this. All day I couldn't get Buzz being downstairs with Woody upstairs so far apart. Seriously Kell they do not come alive for goodness sake, they have no idea they aren't together anymore. Anyway my deranged mind got the better of me and Buzz was reunited with his BF. Cam was as worried as most of my friends as I told them the story thinking they would agree. Yeah totally alone on that one and for good reason!
My favourite of all is Eva's attachment to one of the most special toys in our house. To anyone it looks like any other well loved doll but if you ask Eva what is so special about she will literally have you in tears so I thought she could tell you herself.
When my mummy was little she had a cabbage patch doll that she loved Sooo much just like I love my cabbage patch doll. My poppy always said to my nanny that if mummy had a girl she had to have a cabbage patch doll. My poppy died and my mum was really sad because he said I was going to be a girl and he didn't see me born and a baby. My nanny came to visit me in the hospital where I lived for a little while with mummy and she gave me a cabbage patch doll like my mummy had. Because my mummy and daddy named me Eva Poppy the same as my poppy, we called my doll Poppy as well and she is the best doll and keeps me safe and warm at night.
Children become attached to toys because they see something in them that no one else can see. They see something that loves them no matter what, they make them feel safe and they become a friend that never leaves them. Three of the most important things a child needs in life. If you had someone like that you wouldn't want to give them up either!
Just like a dummy, blankey or bottle, a toy your child is attached to will probably one day become something that is just for home as they grow older and move onto other toy phases. However, what is so lovely about these toy treasures is that they can keep them forever and I promise they will never forget how much they loved them. What were your special toys?
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