"Why does it do that mummy?..... Why do I have to clean my room?..... Why is it hot today? .... Why does an elephant have a trunk? .... Why do we have to wear clothes? ..... Why can't we fly? .... Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? ........................... BECAUSE I SAID SO!!!!!!!!
I feel like I'm getting a lot of Oh my gosh, yes vibes from you all ha! I'm here to tell you today, no, it's not just your child and yes, because I said so is a good answer!
Children are naturally inquisitive as they development as little humans and they don't know everything. We (and sometimes unfortunately) are their Wikipedia's and Google's and actually sometimes I do use them to answer their more obscure questions. Or they are handy for those moments they tell you a fact that you had no idea about.
I'm not talking about a table conversation going through what they learned at school or when we are out on some excursion and they are asking a question RELATED to wherever we are. I'm talking about thirty questions in thirty seconds in an unrelated environment, where one question is completely different to the one asked before, where they don't even listen to the answer, where my answer is followed with another question (possibly unrelated again) and where to be honest, I don't really feel like answering.
I remember in uni being told as a teacher you always answer a question because it's all about their learning and they may miss out on a big opportunity. Well now I'm a mum and seriously, there is a time and a place! Most of the time is not one of them and the place, I would like to refer these questions to, is school.
Our car is like a magnet for questions. Belts buckled, car turned on and they just come at me like paparazzi. Let's not bother taking in turns or even wait for me to answer, it's just how many questions can we ask before we get home and then tomorrow we will try and beat that record. After a really long day with the added long night, I just want to listen to the radio. So my answer for any question in the car is simply no. I feel like no covers the majority of questions my kids will ask and when I get picked up on it like "Mum that made no sense, I asked what song is on" I just nod my head and say yes.
If you feel uneasy about because I said so, then let me suggest you try some alternatives like making something up to see their reaction or looking for the shortest possible answer. I know it sounds mean but if you start being mum of the year and never letting a question go unanswered they WILL double their load to see how long before you snap. Give yourselves a because I said so limit. They don't need to know everything and your brain capacity is a mum one. It became full the day you gave birth!
Sometimes an answer just calls for Because I said so. My child's life will not dramatically change if I decide to withhold information about why it is a warm day today. It just is. Why does an elephant have a trunk? Because that's what God decided so take it up with Him. Why do we have to wear clothes? No comment. Why? Because I said so!
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