This month's mumma of the month is another dear friend of mine and one of my biggest mumma inspirations. I don't think she realises how amazing she is but after you read about her, you will all agree that she is not only the coolest mum but hard working and one hell of an inspiration to anyone who is considering studying with kids. Love you Wendy and thanks for being my mumma of the month, you are just beautiful xx
Apart from being a mum, what do you do with all the free time that you don’t have?
I play basketball in the NSW Waratah League for the Hills Hornets. I am currently studying my Masters in Special Education and I get to sneak off to workout three mornings a week at 5:30 AM!!!!!!
How did you see yourself as a mum before you became one?
I have no idea, its all a blur. What did I do with all my time?
Can you give us three rules you made pre-mum that you have now broken? Have you stuck to any?
only did one!!!!!!!!!!
I thought I would never send my children to day care because “I'm a mum and I had these kids so I should look after them.” Did I stick to that… HELL NO!!!!!!
My first child went only one day the year before he started school, my fourth however has just started going two days a week (he is 18 months old) and I actually get a little embarrassed that he does. But I'm no lady of leisure on these days, I will spend my time studying, yes all day sometimes. Or there is grocery shopping, washing an endless amount of pee stained toilet training clothes and overall house maintenance. I will also try and squish in a coffee or breakfast date with my husband if I can. Cause lets be honest, who does date nights when you have four kids?
What does your day look like as a mum?
5:30 Get up and go to F45 training (smash a coffee and banana on the way)
7:15 Walk back into the house to 3 kids watching TV, a husband in bed and a baby in the cot, straight into breakfast and getting ready for school
9:00 Try have kids dropped at school hopefully before the bell (we live 2 mins away)
9:10 Get the kids out of the car and straight into the pram so l can go for a walk (via the grocery store for anything I need for the day)
10:00 Meet friends or my mums group (I some how ended up in two mums groups after my fourth kid, I had never attended one before him)
1-2:00 Come home and hope that my two youngest fall asleep on the way, only one does so l put a movie on for my two year old. I know I should clean, get dinner ready, study but instead l chose to lie on the couch and watch Real Housewives or the Kardashians, telling myself l will clean the house in the ad breaks, which l end up fast forwarding anyway
3:15 Load kids in car to get the older two from school, still asleep and usually without shoes
3:40 Home for a snack, squish in some homework and get everyone ready to go to someone's sporting activity (afl, swimming, athletics, basketball, soccer)
6:00 Home for dinner (the kids are normally screaming for food by now)
6:15 Daddy's home (Thank goodness…breathe, breathe, breathe)
6:30 Bath the kids if l can be bothered
7-7:30 bed time
7:30 Begin studying while I scream at the kids to go to sleep(not really, OK maybe a bit),
or get ready to head out to basketball training
or lay on my bed and stare at the wall wishing l had more energy to do stuff.
What do you love most about being a mum?
That l get to hang out with them all day, l love the wonder in their eyes when they experience new things and how much they love me, even when I totally suck and yell at them, they still love me.
What are some of your challenges as a mum?
I crack it, all the time and I hate that l do. I think I'm so calm and collected most of the time but then I crack it, I have four kids, I'm bound to crack it!!!!
I find it really hard to organise the kids and get them to all their events after school and on weekends. My husband works a lot and is quiet often travelling overseas, so its up to me. I lose the plot trying to get them places on time and it can be a real juggle. Most times l calm down when we are out and enjoy being out as a family…. but getting there is SO HARD!!!!
Who are your mum people and how have they influenced you as a mum?
The biggest influences have been my sister in laws. I watched them parent before I had children and then I joined them with my kids. I was the first of my friends to have kids so they were the biggest influences. They parent completely differently and I liked seeing how they handled situations and how their children responded to their different styles. Neither were right or wrong, which was so reassuring that their wasn't one single way to do it, and let me tell you, they are the greatest parents, with sweet beautiful children.
Tell us about your decision to go back to uni. How do you manage your time with studying, taking care of your family and finding time for you?
I went back to uni because l was not working and l thought getting a Masters would help me get a job eventually when my children were older and l was ready to get back into the work force. I am still not sure if l want to be a special needs teacher, but l think it will be a great tool to have as a classroom teacher as there are always kids who need that little bit of extra help. Studying is hard sometimes, l mostly do it on Mondays (kids are at day care) and I normally do a couple nights a week. I try to start as soon as kids go into their rooms to sleep, there are always interruptions though until they fall asleep. Sometimes at night I'm so brain dead, so I don’t stress about it and end up staring at a wall until l get myself to bed.
I did manage to complete uni whilst having a baby mid semester, l think that if l can do that then I can do anything, it wasn't easy but I know that my capacity is large and always growing. If I failed my subject then the worse would be l had to re-do it, so l took a gamble and got a credit for my semester, Phew!!!!! As well as my capacity growing, I have also learned my limits too, I have learned to stay home if I'm not coping and I have learned to say no to people. My focus is always my family, if they are happy, I am happy.
Tell us a mum moment of yours (funniest, grossest, sweetest etc)
Elroy (18months) will wrap him arms around my neck and hold me so tight to cuddle me. It totally melts my heart and I wish I could capture the moment somehow so it would last forever!!!
Izzy (2years) did a poo in his pants at the park with a daddy who wasn't paying too much attention…. Lets just say that after about 5 slides down the slippery dip, other parents started to notice poo on their children and all over the slide and playground equipment, they were not impressed and my husband was out of there so fast!!!!
What would you say to a mum who wants to do something for themselves outside of mum world?
Do it, you can only try right?! There is definitely a season that you can and can’t do things. I managed to keep playing basketball at a representative level, it was hard, and always has been so hard after each kid but its something that is familiar to me. But I would never of been able to do uni after my first kid, however by my third l was craving something to stimulate my brain.
I would say give anything a go, what’s the worst that could happen, you have to stop doing it or postpone doing it? Is that really so bad? If you are passionate about something, then doors will always open up. So keep dreaming and when you feel like the time is right then go for it!
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