I had a message from a friend this morning asking if it was normal to feel a little depressed doing nothing but looking after her bubba everyday. Well the answer is ..... ABSOLUTELY.
Becoming a mum is such a unique life change. You go from life with just you and your hubby to sharing your time between them both (and we all know hubby's struggle with that) as well as the freedom to be by yourself any time you want. You work in a full time career where you have your own independence, dreams and ladder climbing to suddenly being stuck at home waiting for sleep times to finish and ten loads of washing everyday. You have two salaries so eating out, clothes shopping and never ending date nights are the norm to now celebrating your anniversary at home with Thai and a movie, watching the New Years Fireworks on the TV (if you can make it to midnight) and saving every single penny of your one income. No wonder it's a bit of a shock to your system!
Of course you would never discuss this (unless you do) with your friends for fear that you look like you don't love your child and receiving a barrel of judgement, but I promise you as you read this, there are a lot of mums agreeing with me right now. We love our bubs and wouldn't turn back time for a second. My children are my heart and soul and constantly take my breath away. However, trying to explain to your husband that you are just as if not more exhausted than he is and you need a break is a real struggle when it looks like you have done nothing all week. Sound familiar?
Back on to your current job. If you get to a point where you are craving to just use your brain or do something you really want to do, make a plan and give it a go! Every month I will be interviewing a mum about their life and how they are pursuing their dreams as well so this will be a great encouragement to you. What if it doesn't work out or it's too hard? try again in 6 months time. As long as you had a go it will at least give you an idea if you are ready or not.
For me, I really wanted to be a mum. I became a teacher so I could work with kids, lived overseas for an experience and then became a mum. But life for me doesn't stop there because I have more dreams and I'm giving them a good crack. Dream two, a writer. To write children's books and a blog about what life as a parent really looks like.... doing it! I have more dreams too and I will absolutely be trying those out as well. I have friends who are working one or a couple of days back at their old work and loving life as well as appreciating some extra cash. I have friends who like me started one of their dreams and pursuing that from blogging to photography to cake making to knitting to styling celebrities!
So what do you want to do with your life? work, study, start your own business, start a hobby, jump on a band wagon of some sort? It is the beginning of a new year and I challenge you mumma to do one thing for you this year